Earlier today, I received Raniel Josh Cowper Esguerra’s comment on my 2-year old blog post The 3 Kinds of Guys You Will Meet In Your Life.
When I wrote this entry, I was 24 years old and two years less prudent from today. This entry brought much traffic when I first posted this that I had to upgrade my bandwidth thrice. And it also culled such interesting collection of comments from readers. Some were positive, some were funny, some were negative. I welcome every comment, whatever point of view they were coming from, as long as they were decently written.
Now, for some reason, the blog post resurfaced and gained traffic again. However, this single comment really pierced right through me. Not because he called me “sexist” — because I know exactly what the word and the concept means. And not also he called what I wrote “the dumbest thing ever.”
What alarms me is this: "It’s your fault you met those kinds of guys." (I’m actually shaking while I type this.)
First it is very sad and ironic that he was offended by my alleged sexism and immediately blames me for meeting those three kinds of guys.
Second, this goes to all women out there (especially the young girls), no one has the right to tell you what he told me. It’s like telling a someone who got sexually harassed that it was her fault because she wore something that was sexy. So it’s my fault that I met these kinds of guys because…? Kindly finish your sentence.
Last, like what I said, I was 2 years less prudent when I wrote the blog entry. If I got this comment 2 years ago, I wouldn’t fired him with some witty banter and whatnot. But let me tell you this: Raniel Josh Cowper Esguerra, thank you for taking your time and reading my article. Looks like I offended you but thank you for being the gentleman that you are. I bet you’re neither an asshole, a jerk or a douche. :)